Erotic Shame & Humiliation

In our day-to-day lives, we usually try to avoid the feeling of shame at all costs.

But shame as a conscious and consensual tool to play with humiliation in a kink context can be very delicious, hot, and ultimately very satisfying. Shame play and humiliation are considered psychological play and can be very powerful types of engaging in kink for all people involved.

So how do you play with shame and humiliation in a good, positive, and empowering way?

How do you welcome a feeling that you would usually try to avoid and how do you hold space for a person that is experiencing shame?

In this course, Emma Steel - together with her lovely assistant Miss Tobi - dives deep into her favorite topic.

Her knowledge of kink and her training in psychology will help you understand and navigate this topic and find your way into playing with shame.


This course will cover:

- How to recognize and understand shame

- How shame feels in your body?

- Roles within shame play

- How to work with unwelcome shame and trauma

- Boundaries, Consent, Negotiation, and Aftercare

- How to initiate playing with shame


Kink & Trauma

Trauma is a is a big word. Trauma is part of life and "trauma transformation" can stand for the idea that wounds can heal. Some of us use BDSM techniques to make that kind of change happen. This workshop gives you a glimpse into how that is possible, what to be aware of and why the body is key.

This course is designed for everyone from beginner to expert who is interested in the topic either for themselves or wish to acquire knowledge of how to play with others better.

The course consists of a theoretical part that discusses the topics in depth, a practical group session that includes play scenes and lots of exercises for you to try at your convenience.

This course will

  • provide lots of theory about trauma and BDSM
  • gives you lots of embodiment exercises to work with that can calm you down
  • gives insights into how to negotiate & navigate playing with trauma
  • covers topics such as shame, anxiety, triggers and how to work with them
  • considers external factors such as power dynamics, space & time, privileges etc.
  • consists of a theoretical part and an entire group sessions with Emma and four different participants
  • shows practical examples of negotiating, building and executing kink scenes that play with trauma
  • gives lots of advice for safety, check-ins and aftercare


course duration: approx. 7h

Boundaries, Consent & Negotiation

Society's structures are filled with rules, law, regulations and judgements on how each person is expected to behave and carry themselves.

What happens when those rules have been broken?

What happens when you were not taught the rules? Or if you were shown things that are counter intuitive to you?

This course is designed for anyone searching for ways to understand their boundaries, how to find consent and to negotiate from a safe(r) perspective in respect to kink play and its potentially complex dynamics.

This course will

  • guide you through the 3 distinct topics of boundaries, consent & negotiation
  • give you detailed information about how they are defined
  • explain in detail what informs and affects our boundaries and consent
  • take into account how societal concepts, emotional responses and lived experiences influence boundaries and consent
  • show you techniques and playful ways to navigate these sensitive topics
  • take into account and comment on (consensual) power and hierarchical dynamics
  • show you negotiation and play demos
  • provide you with resources and references for further study


course duration: approx. 4h

Note: Boundaries, Consent & Negotiation are topics so important for us that we will give a 50% discount on the lower priced course if you add this course to any other course you buy. Discount will automatically appear upon checkout.

Find your Kinks

The world of kink is large and bountiful. Time to explore it! But where and how to start?

This course is designed for everyone who is beginning their own kink journey and would like to go on a deep and fun exploration of themselves and their own sexuality. We offer you a safe and completely judgement free space to slowly explore the abundant world of BDSM in its many facets and find the things you like and love.

We do more than help you find the kink(s) that might turn you on. Together with Caritia you can not only explore what's out there and how it's done safely but also explore WHY certain activities might attract you and others. This exploration of kink is also a guided journey into your own desires, wishes and needs.

This course will

  • guide you through larger topics of kink
  • explain and demonstrate common kinky activities to give you an idea of what they are, as well as examples of what they can look like
  • give you substantial knowledge in terms of boundaries setting, consent negotiation
  • talk about kink and psychology, kink and trauma and the difference between kink and abuse
  • explain kink terms and vocabulary
  • provide lots of demos and playful examples
  • offer different positions you can adopt according to your body and ability
  • talk about what makes something kinky
  • help you define what a fetish is
  • give you lots of resources and tools to find and safely explore your kinks


course duration: approx. 15h